The Standard：
Cheating spouses make for a sorry state of affairs
Slightly more than half of married Hongkongers cheat on their spouses, a survey has found.
However, according to the survey by HK Romance Dating, the cheaters would still stick with their original partners if forced to make a choice.
The survey, carried out from June to mid-July, covered 500 men and women, with about a 50-50 split. It showed that 52 percent have had unfaithful partners. Some 29 percent admitted to two-timing their spouses.
The findings also revealed that when it came to choosing between a current spouse and the third party, 49 percent of the cheaters said they would remain with their original partners, with 34.3 percent preferring the third party and 16.8 percent neither.
The most popular reasons given by cheaters for having an affair were that they no longer found their partner attractive (24.3 percent) and they found the third party more attractive (15.7 percent).
The person being cheated was, however, more likely to believe that the fault was not appearance-based with 39.5 percent blaming the lack of excitement in the relationship and 20.5 percent believing their partner had been seduced.
As for the third parties, 31.5 percent said they carried on the relationship because of false hopes and 16 percent said they were swayed by the constant romantic pursuit..jpg)
Anita Cheung Wai-ping and Yubi Wong Ka-yu, HKRD's founders and matching consultants, both strongly advised paramours to end their affairs as soon as possible and warned against the consequences of the seemingly harmless flings.
"The third party - in this love triangle - will always lose. They are used, lied to, given false hope, but in the end most people would not even pursue a future with them," Cheung said. "In any and every affair, all parties end up getting hurt."
She added: "As for the person who has been deceived, he or she will start to wonder: 'Did I do anything wrong? Was it me?' and this will take a toll on future attitudes toward love and, of course, overall self-confidence."
Wong also said in most relationships people pay less attention to their appearance and "will begin to appeal less to their partner. Meanwhile more and more negative traits begin to be revealed."
They said a healthy dose of communication was necessary to maintain any relationship, and suggested the occasional date-night even for older couples long out of the dating phase.
"Arranging more time together and surprises, particularly, helps to keep the romance fresh; just like the beginning of a new relationship," Wong said.
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